I had been scrolling through my Facebook feed and happened to stumble upon a post by La Flowers, aka Ana Flores of Latina Bloggers Connect. She posted her personal “Stop Doing List” which you can find on her blog, Madre Vida… check it out right here. There are so many times where we write lists of things we’d like to do in our lives, daily tasks or full blown bucket lists of things we absolutely must do before we die. I was really intrigued, though, to find her list of things to STOP doing. I spend way too much time thinking about things I need to get done but completely ignoring the bad habits I really need to let go of in life.
La Flowers actually got this list idea from Danielle LaPorte, motivational speaking guru who says that “What you stop doing is just as important as what you start doing,” and she is absolutely right. With no shame, here is my personal list:
I Will Stop…
- Feeling embarrassed when I speak Spanish. I don’t have a gringa accent, I just slip on grammatical errors when I’m nervous. No one ever really notices until I point it out. So I’ll stop pointing it out and just get better!
- Telling people I’ve been hiding when I get the never ending question “WOW, Rocio, It’s been forever, where have you been??” By hiding, I mean staying at home and choosing not to go out. Not necessarily hiding from anyone in particular, I just spent too much time secluding myself when clearly I have a better time around people. I’m a natural people person. People persons don’t hide.
- Avoiding change. Change is inevitable. It is supposed to happen in order to progress (or digress, but that path is entirely up to where you want to go in life.) I have spent too much time trying to prevent my life from really changing because I have been afraid. I’m always afraid of what I do not know. Where’s the fun (and progression) in that?
- Trying to find the truth to the lies in my failed relationships after said relationship is over. When you’ve been with someone who has been unfaithful, you are left scarred. Personally, I grow exhausted trying to come up with logical answers to questions I’ve had about their cheating. Some questions very specific, others very broad… but countless questions nonetheless. It’s draining and absolutely unnecessary now that I know that page has turned, the book has closed, and the library has burned to the ground. So in other words, I will stop feeding the memories, it’s just a waste of time.
- Scrolling through my phone while in bed. It’s so bad for my eyes. This was part of my New Years Resolution that clearly I did not keep… so I’m throwing it in this list and keeping my fingers crossed that I can complete it this time around!
- Opening credit cards because I want the extra 15% off of the already reduced maxi dress.
- Seeking another person’s approval over something that I whole heartedly want to do for myself.
- Acting shy when my YouTube channel is mentioned in a public setting. I am really proud of how far I have come in such a short time. I work too hard on my videos to have my confidence diminish just because someone belittles my YouTube successes. I have more than 5,000 Rizadas that care, that’s more than I need to put a smile on my face!
- Saying yes to something I don’t feel like doing. I always feel obligated and some people are REALLY persuasive but I just need to stick to my gut!
- Thinking that I will amount to nothing because I don’t have a bachelor’s degree. This one is going to be tough. The thought crosses my mind all of the time and really weighs me down.
- Believing that the “scared shitless” feeling I get when making a life changing decision means it’s a bad decision and that I should remain safe (and complacent) at whatever stage of life I’m in at the moment. When God wants you to grow, he will make things highly uncomfortable so that you have no choice BUT to make changes. It’s all about following my gut!
- Ignoring my gut.
- Pretending like I know what kind of wine to order with my meals. It’s okay that I don’t know these things. Sometimes it’s best to just ask what your server recommends since some of them go through extensive training to have the best answer for those types of questions.
- Creating lists I won’t complete.
If you were to create a list of things to stop doing in your life, what would be on it? Let me know! Happy hump day!
Xoxo Un Besito,